mental health therapy, mindfulness, grief Sara Walter Shihdanian mental health therapy, mindfulness, grief Sara Walter Shihdanian

Acceptance: Learning to Hold Space for Contradiction

We grieve all sorts of things: a parent who can’t really show up for you, a marriage that’s deteriorating, a gendered self we tried to wear for decades, the body we once trusted, the dream we carried for years and never got to live. These living losses hurt. And like all grief, they bring us—eventually, repeatedly—to a place we call acceptance. But what if acceptance isn’t what we think it is?

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Avoidance And Activation

When it comes to our mental health struggles, many of us have perfected the art of the dodge. We're talking about a deep-rooted pattern that keeps us haunted by the same painful themes or issues, never quite breaking free. Avoidance is the mind's automatic self-protection system. It's what happens when our brain decides, "This feeling is too scary, this memory too painful—let's go anywhere else, immediately!" And in the short term, it works brilliantly. That’s the problem.

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Let It Transform You: The Creative Power of Anger

Many of us have been taught to fear our anger. We learn early that anger invites violence or danger, that it's an emotion best suppressed or avoided. This widespread misunderstanding does us a tremendous disservice, cutting us off from one of our most potent creative resources. When anger is properly channeled, it offers extraordinary creative potential that too many of us have been conditioned to dismiss.

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mental health therapy, grief, relationships, mindfulness, acceptance Sara Walter Shihdanian mental health therapy, grief, relationships, mindfulness, acceptance Sara Walter Shihdanian

Radical Acceptance: Relationship Changes

We often think about relationships in terms of building, growing, and nurturing. But what about when they change dramatically or end altogether? The transitions that reshape our connections with others—divorces, breakups, family estrangements, friendships that drift apart— can be among life's most painful experiences. These moments can challenge not just our emotional wellbeing but often our very identity. This is where radical acceptance becomes not just helpful, but essential.

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trauma, mental health therapy, healing journey, grief, gratitude Sara Walter Shihdanian trauma, mental health therapy, healing journey, grief, gratitude Sara Walter Shihdanian

Grief: The Dark Side of All Growth Work

When we embark on a journey of personal growth—whether through therapy, self-help, spiritual practice, or simple life experience—we're often sold the sunny side: transformation, liberation, authenticity, and wholeness. The glossy promises of becoming our "best selves" fill bookshelves and social media feeds.

What rarely makes the marketing materials is the unavoidable companion to all meaningful growth: grief.

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trauma, mindfulness, mental health therapy, healing journey Sara Walter Shihdanian trauma, mindfulness, mental health therapy, healing journey Sara Walter Shihdanian

Devotion Over Discipline, Or Why Motivation Ain’t Shit

Motivation is a thrilling spark, a burst of energy that propels us into action. It’s that intoxicating moment of inspiration when we feel like we can conquer anything—a new fitness goal, a creative project, a career move. It arrives in an almost magical and captivating way, often unbidden, pushing us forward with enthusiasm and excitement. But inevitably, it fades. And we are left wondering why we don’t feel quite as excited as we did before. Soon enough, if we rely solely on motivation, we cycle through disappointment several times before we may feel our our goals beginning to slip away, gathering dust alongside abandoned resolutions and forgotten ambitions.

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When the World is on Fire: How to Cope in a Harsh Reality

Life is overwhelming when it seems like the world is quite literally on fire. So how do we keep our center amid the pressure cooker of climate change, social upheavals, an endless political circus, and the sheer pace of modern life? Whether its mindfulness, community, humor, or collective action, you can keep your inner flame alive without being decimated by the blaze. And if all else fails, some dark humor, a good snack, and a good cry might be just what you need.

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neurodivergence, ADHD, mental health therapy Sara Walter Shihdanian neurodivergence, ADHD, mental health therapy Sara Walter Shihdanian

Because the Shower Runs Cold: ADHD and Mindfulness in Daily Life

Recently when I was in the shower, I went to shave my legs and realized “The water is already cooling off. I missed my shaving window again, dang it!” And just like that, I had to call it. Not because I was done with my shower tasks or because my morning was marching onward but because my neurodivergent brain’s preferred notification system for showering is simply running out of hot water. Sound familiar?

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